Politically Incorrect Advice on How to Have a Happy Marriage: Do the Laundry

Sluts lower the value of all women. Here’s how to compete with them.  And with that headline, “Judgy Bitch” goes on to speak truth to the hook up culture about how to get and keep a partner.  First, she quotes, Margaret Wente:

“A lot of women are in no hurry to get married, either. But it might not work out so well for them. They’ve watched too much Sex in the City. They think they’ll still have the same choices at 35 and 40 that they had at 25. They have no idea that men’s choices will get better with age (especially if they’re successful), but theirs will get worse. Believe me, this sucks. But it’s the truth.”

But in today’s culture, women throw themselves at men.

What is a sensible, reasonable woman to do in the face of sluts throwing their vaginas around like confetti at a wedding? In truth, it’s not that hard to compete with sluts.  What you’ll need are some domestic skills and a sense of loyalty to match your man’s.

She writes about how and her husband connected.  Once, when he gave her the key to his apartment, she surprised him.  He thought she was going to surprise him with some sort of sexy evening.  Instead, she did all of his laundry and organized it.

“He fucking died,” she wrote.  “He told me later that THAT was the moment he knew he would marry me.”

During our 18 months at grad school, I continued to do his laundry.  I learned what he liked for breakfast and had a tray ready for him every morning.  I fetched him hot food when he was tied up in long meetings, got him coffee when he looked tired and rubbed his back after eight hours of lectures in a chair designed for someone six inches shorter.  I folded his laundry, made his bed and listened to his frustrations.

I know this is not earth-shattering.  In fact, it’s a re-packaged Biblical principle of “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matthew 7:12).  But after listening to my son talk about the “hook-up” scene — and his frustration about how its ruining things for everyone — this hit the mark. 

I would add to this piece, as a guy… return the favor.  Think about what she needs…all the time.  Do things…mow the lawn, wash the windows, fix stuff (or at least get it fixed by people who know how).  Treat her like she’s the most important thing in the world to you, because she should be. 

Does it work?  I can’t speak universally, but I’ve been married 24 years, and my parents are celebrating their 58th anniversary this week.

I think my kids know this stuff, and I look forward to seeing them in long, happy marriages.

Hat Tip: Judgy Bitch

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